It all started innocently enough. We were on route to SF by way of an over-crowded BART train. In an attempt to distract my 7YO, I offered to teach her how to play “Words with Friends.” You know it – the highly addictive Scrabble-like game that turns friends into overly competitive, word elitists.
I sent my friend an in-game message asking her to play a “fun” round with my daughter and me. As I was showing my daughter how to move the letters onto the board, I saw it. In the jumble of letters, there sat S-O-L-D-I-E-R. Bam! All seven letters just like that! “That’s skill, baby.” My daughter looked at me blank faced and asked, “Can we play Dragonvale now?” “No, we can NOT play Dragonvale. Let’s see what Kirsten plays.”
Kirsten – kind, sweet Kirsten – countered with H-O-M-E, which was awfully gracious of her since I was “supposed” to be playing with my first grader. How nice of her to choose a word my kid could actually read. The game continued for several more weeks without my daughter, as we added words like F-A-K-E-R, H-E-L-M-E-T, P-A-V-E-R. It was all very rudimentary, sublime – some might even say, civilized. Until …
Until (!), she submitted J-I-V-Y. Nothing makes me happier (while simultaneously making me feel infinitely inferior) than learning a new word. I had never heard the word, read the word, used the word. Not only had she stumped me, it came at the price of 39 points for four measly letters.
I was NOT buying it. I started asking perfect strangers. “Hey, you! Yes, you. Can you kindly tell me the definition for jivy?” I added, “It’s legit – Words with Friends. Really!” No surprise … people smiled and quickly moved past me with a simple, “Sorry. Dunno.”
No closer to confirmation, I consulted my Dictionary – copyright 1988. It wasn’t listed. Aha! Victory. Just to be on the safe side, I popped onto Google (source of all knowledge) for a quick search. Sure ‘nuf … Jiv-y [jahy-vee]: adj. lively, jazzy.
I should have known better than to play Words with Friends. It brings out the ugly in me. I have a long history of poor Scrabble sports(wo)manship. During my first foray with WWF, a dear friend laid down “fettle,” which almost ruined our friendship and resulted in a litany of expressive, albeit not-so-nice words. One might say, I worked myself up into a fine “fettle!”
As for my hubby and me – we haven’t played Scrabble since the early 90s. I decided back then that for the good of our marriage, it was better not to let him beat me at Scrabble. He does math. I do words. And, I don’t like being beat with words like A-X-E or Z-O-O-M laid on triple point or triple word squares (he’s uses those triple point squares like a pro!). At least with my friends, they keep it lively or jivy!
Either way, I need to find a new game. Or, perhaps, I should only play Words with People I Don’t Know.
middle of winter and I had already wrestled the guilt of buying out-of-season, internationally shipped fruit into a head-lock. I thought for certain my son would eat the strawberries without comment or argument. Thus, I reasoned it was okay to purchase them in this particular instance. However, when the kids arrived home with their strawberries warm and smushed, I was hopping mad.









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